It’s Mother’s Day every day
This year for Mother’s Day, listen to some experts: moms who take care of new moms.
Lisa Sortedahl and Jadie Lara are registered nurses at the Birth Center in Trinity Regional Medical Center. Sortedahl has three girls and two boys ranging in age from 5 to 21, and Lara has two boys and two girls, ages 2 to 13 years old.
Though they’ve been mothers for a long time, that doesn’t mean they’re not still daughters.
“I think (Mother’s Day) is still more about my own mother,” said Sortedahl.
“I still feel like it’s about my mom too,” Lara said. “Even after 13 years, it’s not hard to believe you’re a mom, but it’s hard to let go of it being about your mom.”
Both nurses said Mother’s Day is a family time for them. Sortedahl usually goes to a campground with her parents and six siblings, and Lara meets up with family after attending one of her kids’ baseball games.
“We try to get together with family that night, and grill out or have dinner,” Lara said.
Lara said when her kids give her homemade gifts, those mean more than anything money could buy.
“Usually I get flowers,” Sortedahl said, “then we all plant flowers together.”
Both were moms before they started working at the birth center, and said that experience was vital.
“I think it helps being a mom on this floor, because you know what they’re going through because you’ve been there yourself,” Lara said. “I think if I wasn’t a mom before I started working here, I might be scared to ever have kids.”
“They ask you, how many times have you done that before?” said Sortedahl.
“And that reassurance, I think it makes them feel good when I say I have four kids, and you have five kids,” Lara added.
Sortedahl and Lara can share motherly experience with first-time moms as they head home.
“From your own personal experience, you try to tell them what to expect. What you’ve been through,” Sortedahl said. “I always give them advice about going home, and the best advice is to get plenty of sleep, and sleep when the baby sleeps.”
“I try to tell them if you’re getting stressed out, take a deep breath because you’ll get through it,” said Lara. “And just when you think you’ve gotten through one set of challenges, take another deep breath because here comes another set. It’s always something different.”
What does it take to be a mom? Patience, they both said.
“Patience and understanding, and of course love,” said Sortedahl.
“And you’re not just a mom, you’re a nurse, and a taxi driver, a bank account, a friend,” said Lara.
“And a coach, a teacher, and a maid. The list goes on,” Sortedahl said.
“We wouldn’t change it for the world,” said Lara.
Their advice was echoed by Michelle Goodell, who gave birth last week at Trinity to her third son.
“Patience, patience, patience,” she said. “Patience, lots of love and time.
“Everything else can get done later. The housework? It will get done sometime. You can get groceries sometime. Spending good quality time when you can, because all of a sudden they’re this,” she pointed to 3-day-old Cole Goodell, “and then they’re 8.”
Her oldest son, 8 years old, seems much older now next to the new baby. He’s also old enough to make Mother’s Day special for Michelle Goodell.
He picked out flowers and a card for his mom while she’s in the hospital.
“He’s getting old enough to make stuff in school and bring it home, that’s always fun,” she said. “Those homemade Mother’s Day gifts, they’re the best. And the cards.”