Valentine’s Day romance shouldn’t be overlooked

Interrogation – to interrogate, to scrutinize, to question.

Interrogation. Such a harsh word, but the word my family used whenever I talked to my daughter’s friends. Naturally, I didn’t call it interrogation; I called it interest.

Perhaps it’s a good thing nobody was with me last week when I decided a late night was better ended with breakfast than going to bed hungry. Katie, the waitress, seemed much more tired at 5:30 a.m. than I was, proving my point, I think, that staying up is easier than getting up.

She had time to chat, and told me about meeting her boyfriend at a friend’s wedding in Cancun. She lived in Florida; he in Dodge. It took a year of constant communication and several trips for each before she moved back to Iowa to be with him.

“And what does he give you for Valentine’s Day?” I asked, since Valentine’s Day was on my mind.

Roses. The first year he gave her roses with a card attached that said he gave her a kiss on each petal of each rose. Or something close to those words. It really doesn’t matter what the exact words were – they were perfect.

Roses seem the flower of choice for this special day, but he made the roses more special with kisses on each petal. That’s twanging Cupid’s bow, for sure.

You can find statistics that say flowers, mostly roses, are the common gift for a man to give his lady on Valentine’s Day. Come on, now. Most roses don’t even smell good. A nice carnation with the scent of cloves in much more aromatic.

Something seems innately wrong when every push you hear starts with what HE will give HER for the big day. Seems to me, she ought to be doing some of the giving herself. Love is a two-way street, after all.

Trying to find statistics about Valentine’s Day, I saw a piece for women on “nine powerful words you can say that remind him why he needs you,” but that was right next to the piece on “10 ugly mistakes women make that ruin any chance of a relationship.”

Both sites miss the mark. First of all, if you’ve got to use “powerful words” to remind him why he loves you, you’re probably not with the right guy to start with. And second, who needs to look at “10 ugly mistakes.” A woman can make enough of her own.

And guys, the same for you. Don’t go looking for problems.

I’m thinking the only thing that needs to be said to anyone on Valentine’s Day is be romantic. Romantic. That might be little more than a lingering hug followed by a peck on the cheek. A card would help, because that’s something that can be looked at over and over. If you’re feeling adventurous, send the card to the postmaster in Loveland, Colo., or Valentine, Neb., and have him or her send it back to your sweetie. That postmark would mean as much as the card inside.

Along with flowers, of course.

So long friends, until the next time when we’re together.

Sandy Mickelson, retired lifestyle editor of The Messenger, may be reached at